Having a hard time right now being a gay Christian. I'm insane with loneliness bc I can't find another guy I'm interested in that shares my faith. I should be spending more time withGod but instead I go on grindr or Craigslist or somewither trashy avenue just to find a guy. I end up not doing anything physical with anyone I talk to, I think I go on there mostly to speak to someone or have some kind of emotional connection. I have had two meaningless hook ups recently as well with a couple friends. It's seriously making me crazy not being in a serious relationship. I am so overwhelmed when thinking about reading the Bible. I don't even knowwhere to start, what to read, etc. I am at a weird place right now. Please pray I find the strength to put God first in my life again. He is my priority. I know Satan is using my loneliness to distract me.
To the anti-gay person: do you know 25 people? Add your friends, coworkers, immediate and extended family, neighbors, church members, teachers, students, personal trainer, coach, etc. Chances are you know hundreds, if not thousands of people. But forget the thousands you know or have met and focus on just 25 because at least one of them is lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. In fact, the Williams Institute estimates that 4% of the American population is LGBT.
Now, I’m going to ask that you try something that may be difficult or might make you uncomfortable—make this one individual someone you love. Imagine it is your child, sibling, friend, etc. Push aside the hate, disgust, conviction, or logic you would normally use to condemn them, and instead, replace that with the love and admiration you have for them. It is critical you do this because your opinion matters!
If you think I’m talking about those warm feelings your loved one will have when they feel accepted by you, I don’t think you’re understanding me. The very way you feel about homosexuality matters and here’s why: when you feel a certain way, sometimes it’s what you don’t say or don’t do that can have more impact than those things you do. It is difficult enough for any child raised in a home hearing derogatory comments about homosexuals to come out to their families, but it can be equally difficult for a child to come out to a parent who has never publically and authentically embraced LGBT individuals.
Often LGBT persons bear the burden of their same sex attractions alone. Eventually, for most LGBT who endure this struggle, they come to a point of maturity in their life where they have come to accept themselves and their sexuality. It is unfortunate, however, that a large number of LGBT do not find this acceptance until their mid to late 20s or 30s. This causes these homosexual, bisexual, and transgender men and women to experience an adolescence of sorts at an age in which they should be much more equipped to handle the intricacies of dating. What a travesty it is that these LGBT individuals have tragically missed opportunities to accommodate to their new life!
Ironically, large segments of the population have faulty misconceptions that LGBT individuals are all lustful, hypersexual, “in your face”, or what have you, while failing to realize that their very condemnation, whether silent or loud, is perpetuating the stigma LGBT unfairly carry. This spoken or unspoken opinion is delaying the inevitable process of self-discovery. Should heterosexual people come to embrace and speak publically in favor of LGBT individuals, then those who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender could have a chance to grow along with their peers in the murky waters of dating and sexuality.
So back to your loved one, do you want them emotionally and relationally stunted? Or would you prefer that they find love and establish boundaries, principles, and strong relationships earlier in life? If the latter, then speak up, your opinion matters!
I have a new boyfriend. We've dated 4 weeks, it's moved quickly, and yes, we've even used the L word. Not like me at all. But it's true, I do love him and I can picture a future with him. But most of all, he believes in God and wants to please Him. I can't tell you how disheartening it is to know so many gay people that once consider themselves Christians that have fallen away from the faith. A friend of mine who had a similar upbringing as me, and who is also gay, was cutting my hair today. During our conversation he virtually said that God is a combination of all the different religions God and that we can't be certain about God or our origin. He still believed because he chose to do so, but basically he was saying that there were several ways to heaven. I wanted to cry. It's something I'm seeing more and more of as I get older. I don't know why either. Could it be that "Christians" have ostracized gays to the point that if one must reconcile between something they feel they cannot change and something they feel they have the ability to choice, they opt for the former? Have "Christians" unrepresented Christ in such a way that gays say, "I want nothing to do with anything they preach"? I hope not.
What do you think? And what can we do about it? Whether you believe homosexuality is right or wrong, what can we do to prevent people from leaving the faith?
So, I've continued to reflect a lot on my decision to accept homosexuality as spiritually okay. It was a long process, but honestly, I feel more peace in that decision than I did before when I was trying to fight it. I am not necessarily at peace with some of the decisions I make when it comes to acting on my homosexuality, but the decision itself has helped ease my mind. With that being said, I was thinking about what bothers me about the Bible and being gay.
Do I believe the Bible condemns it? No (read my paper), I don't believe it condemns a homosexual monogamous relationship as we know it today. Then, what bothers me? I think there are two things that bother me:
1.) How do we mimic a heterosexual relationship when certain states and the federal government don't recognize the gay marriage? Will a ceremony suffice?
2.) Anatomically, two people of the same sex cannot have a baby. Now, I know there are heterosexual couples where one might be sterile, and in this case, adoption or surrogacy are options. If it's socially acceptable for them, how is it any different for a same sex couple? Jesus and Adam both weren't born normally. Anyway, I'm just thinking out loud.
I want to know what some of you think? Whether you are for or against it, what "bothers you" about it?